I am a female who has been through many things in life. I've made a few foolish choices; but have also made a few okay ones. I feel like hopefully the mistakes I've made or the experiences I've been through can help others avoid pain and/or heartache; so that's why I joined. I wished in life someone had shared their true experiences with me if they were similar and could help.
Most people telling me not to do something; had no idea what I was going through. It was like those y?, non-smoking commercials all over tv and you can tell the people behind them never picked up a cigarette or understand why you did. I've managed to quit; but the commercials still infuriate me.
So that's me. And, I'll try to help if I can.
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i have this friend. She is so competitive. and she claims to be my best friend. So when i get something new, she has to get it, but in a better brand or more expensive to make me feel bad. example would be like; i just got a phone. a week later, she finally got a phone, but more expensive. then when i got a computer, she got one after, but in a better brand. I don't know why she does it but it is getting on my last nerve. Then when I come up with ideas, she steals them and make them into her own. for example. Our whole group of friends hasn't hung out in a while, and i was saying how it would be tight to have everyone get together at a sleep over and just chil. She went off and told all of them as if it were her idea. And it is so frustrating. She also tried to steal my boyfriend. I ended up having to brake up with him because of whole lotta drama. I have slowly separated myself from her. She asked me if we were still best friends, and I said no. And she was begging for best friend status. But I said no. And I have stopped telling her everything, and calling her. I just listen, because I will always be there for her, i have never betrayed her. I helped her lose weight, and told her when people were talking ish about her. But with all that, she repaid me with all that. I want to separate myself from her to the fullest. Do you guys have eny ideas? what do you think about the whole situation? (link)
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Yeah. The key in sentence in that whole thing is that; you helped her loose weight. A lot of times when people do cruel things to others is because they think that the person can take it for whatever crazy reason. They think that you're stronger or more whatever that you can deal with pain normal people can't. She also seems to think that you understand this need that she probably can't put into words b/c you were there throughout her metamorphasis. The best thing to do is cut her off. You can listen when she calls you on the phone. But, move on. She's only going to hurt you really bad. Any female friend that would try to steal your boyfriend past, present or future is not a friend. If you have to cut her off completely so be it.
She may also be trying to get you back for something you didn't realize that you did when she was heavier. All in all; her behavior sounds crazy and dangerous for your mental health.
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very true. she is very dangerous. But i have decided to not let her into my stuff, but just listen to her and be there for her because she can't be there for me. You are amazing. Your answers actually make sense. Thank you so much.
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