Kendra is a young woman working as a professional in Toronto. She's a cat lover, a bookworm and has always had a deeply rooted interest in people, love and what happens when the former attempts the later.
She's been in three long term relationships, lost her mother when she was 16 and has lived through her father's alcoholism and drug abuse. She's a college graduate in journalism and art, has a quirky personality and has acquired some realistic yet romantic beliefs about love and relationships.
She lives with her boyfriend. Life may not have always been good, but it is good now.
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Ok i told you all about how this guy liked me told me that he loved me said he didn't want my friend and lied to me we he really did. But i don't want to go back in all that detail. But i am not talking to him he text me yesterday and i told him i was mad and wasn't talking to him and told him about SOME not ALL but some of what I knew he lied to me about. I asked him why he lead me on and he said I lead him on which I didn't(i don't think I did). Now I have questions is the girl my friend for real because she knew I liked him and asked if she should go with(not if i approved but just asked period) him. And I saw him flirting with her RIGHT in front of me. What should i do???? Should i still talk to him and PERTEND not to care that he is flirting or do what he does to me? And WHY DO I FEEL LIKE I LOST THIS BATTLE i always said that I would never fight over a boy or let them know that i want them if they don't want me. But he told me that he still loves me and I said i know he doesn't mean it. PLEASE give me advice you can ad anything extra I NEED IT. (link)
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You probably feel like you've lost because this boy is dominating your thoughts and has control in this situation.
My advice is to stop giving him control and to take back control over yourself. You do this by no longer texting him back whenever he texts you. Ever. This will make him nuts and will stop you from playing into this foolishness.
Secondly, don't get into big or small conversations with him. Find reasons to leave if he's around. This is called "The Snub." You must remain calm and centred. Acknowledge his existence when you absolutely have to, but otherwise pretend he's not there.
As for people asking you about him, just shrug it off. Don't let anyone draw you into talking about him either.
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