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my names amanda im 17 years old & i like to help people out (:
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okay i have many many problems, too many to type out on here. but i have two major problems that i need to fix. im sixteen, female by the way.
numero uno: my weight and losing weight the healthy way.
heres the story, i used to be average weight, not skinny, but not "fat". i was fine with myself, and i used to be able to eat anything i wanted. i know that as i got older, my metabolism slowed down yadda yadda, and i gained some weight. im not fat, im just lazy. im normal weight for my height and age, but im not happy with it. im about 5'3 and roughly a little more than 120 pounds.
id like to drop about ten pounds, but i want to eat really healthy and actually work out and get muscle, im not worried so much about the scale as i am about how i look.
im not trying to make myself look better for other people, i want to look better to make myself feel better. (although it would be nice to look better in other people's eyes, but im focused on making myself feel better first)
so does anyone know any good plans to get on, nothing i have to pay for, just healthy foods and things. like things to pack for lunch at school, things to eat for breakfast that help you lose weight. i do not want any diet pills or things like that.
also, does anyone know any good workout moves besides crunches and pushups? that could really help me. i dont really want to buy anything to workout, like weights etc., but i do have an exercise bike to workout on.
okay problem 2:
its about a boy, of course. and also kind of self esteem issues, but its one in the same to me. i kind of like this boy, but i hate the word "like" or "crush", im just interested in him. ive never had a boyfriend, but im kind of over that. ive had little elementary school boyfriends, but none in high school yet(im a junior, so i find that kind of pathetic).
anyways, i started talking to this kid over the summer, but i knew of him last year a little bit, but never really felt like talking. i started talking to him online because one, i thought he was cute, and two, he has great taste in music and i love a guy who loves good music(and as we talked, i realized we have a lottt in common.)im just afraid that im stuck in the friend zone because i havent ever been myself around him yet.
so the problem here is, i get really nervous when i talk to cute guys, when i want to think of them as more than friends. my guy friends, i really dont care how i talk to them. but for some reason i cant be myself around guys i think are cute, i know its a natural teenage thing but i need some ideas of how to get over it. i know the number one reason why i get self consciense around the guys, its because i feel like they wont like me because im a little bit chubbier, but thats not the main main reason.
i just dont get why im so funny around my friends and i cant be myself/funny around him. i didnt really like him when i started talking to him, i just thought he was cute. he has a girlfriend, but i dont really care, i just want to be open around him and be my funny self. any tips?
thanks for reading all of this, and thanks if you actually answered with things that can help me out :)
alright wellllllll the other post was pretty good and on top of things. but ill just try to add a few things from my own experience.
well with the whole healthy eating thing, all that other person said was good and true. you really shouldnt eat things that are packaged and have additives in them.
ive never really been fat or anything.. but i used to have more fat on my body i guess?, then i started only eating whole/natural foods.
this is my meal plan for the day -
for breakfast i have a strawberry/banana shake with skim/no fat milk. i usually add to it some protein powder, flaxeed, and ice. then along with that i have a scrambled egg, sometimes 2 if im really hungry (: also sometimes i add cheese to it to fill me up more!
for lunch, i have cabbage soup!!=] im not exactly sure how my mom makes it, but if your mom is willing to look up a recipe you really should try it! it doesnt sound good.. but it really is quite tasty! you can add turkey or some kind of meat for protein, and my mom also adds beans for protein. you can also add pretty much any vegetable you want. cabbage burns fat! so its a really good lunch =] cabbage alone is not tasty, but cooked and in the soup its all very good! but for you since you are in school, if your mom can put a portion of the cabbage soup in a container you can bring it to school and if you have a microwave at school just heat it up there!
i usually excersize a couple hours after i have my lunch. so when you get home from school, you should have an apple (it gives you a good energy boost/want to excersize=]) and either do your bike workout, or run. i have these CD's called "TurboJam" its 5 excersize CD's. i know you said you dont want anything you have to buy or whatever, but if your willing to or your mom is willing to get it, use those workout CD's! they really are great=]! but if thats out of the question, deffinately just do your excersize bike, or run on a tredmill, or just go run around your neighborhood or at the park. if you have availabilty to a gym, do some strength training. building muscle is a good fat burner! running is a great fat burner also!
for a snack in between lunch and dinner i usually have an apple or strawberriers or blackberries, a banana whatever fruit i feel like. and some celery and peanut butter. also mixed unsalted nuts are a good snack! i dont like them, but it is a good snack if you like nuts!
then for dinner i always have grilled chicken with brown rice and some cooked brocoli and green beans and cooked carrots. you can add SEA salt to these, but dont over do it!
then if i get hungry before i go to bed i just eat some fruit. or celery and peanut butter again.=]
thats my meal plan everyday, ive really lost fat since ive started it, and i feel so much better and look a lot better! it should help your mood/confidence also. if you want to add any other foods thats fine, just dont overeat or try to cut out a lot of packaged foods!
also about the cabbage soup thing, if you arent able to bring it to school, if thats not available, then maybe try bringing a sandwhich with turkey or chicken (and NOT lunchmeat because its not very healthy. its packaged and has a lot of preservatives and added salt) and maybe cheese, lettuce, tomato, or whatever else you like to put on a sandwhich. make sure you use whole wheat bread =]. also an apple or banana with it would be a good lunch!! BUT you really should try cabbage soup and try to include it sometime in your meal. cabbage burns fat so if you are able to make it, you can just have the soup as a snack some days!!
NoWWWWW with the guy problems! if you THINK you're chubby, and if you THINK the guys not going to be interested in you, that obviously lowers your confidence and kind of changes the way you act around him. because you think when you talk to him "oh im chubby ugh he probably just thinks im a fat blah blah" so its hard to be yourself when you have negative thoughts! think positive. also when you start eating healthier and start eating more whole natural foods, your mood and confidence will increase which will help you feel and look better and have a better attuitude towards yourself, and towards takling to the boy!
when your around your friends, you dont care what they think about you, you dont think about the way you look or act because they are your friends and you are comfortable around them! and thats the way you need to think when your around the guy. because obviously you care what he thinks about you and care how you look around him, so idk, i guess just try letting loose! or try talking to him when your around your friends, because that will make you more comfortable and you can let lose easier with him. and be more yourself if your with him AND your friends!
well hope i helped!
(Rating: 5) thank you sooo much :)
i think i will try that soup!