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I'm a 41 year old female and I've recently found out that my husband of 16 years is communicating with a women he was engaged to when we first met. I don't really care that he's spoken to her, I'm not an over jealous person, but I am rather hurt that he hasn't mentioned it to me. It gives me the feeling that there's a reason why he didn't say anything. And the longer it goes on and he doesn't mention it I'm starting to become terribly hurt by this because it feels like a type of betrayal.
Am I over reacting? I know people react differently but if I was in contact with an ex-boyfriend I would probably tell him about it right away.
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Hi,
I can empathise with your situation. It does kind of make you wonder why he wouldn't tell you about something like that especially as long as the two of you have been married. After all that time, there should be no secrets.
Believe me, you have to say something to him about this. If you don't, it's going to continue to haunt you and drive you crazy.
He shouldn't be talking to another woman, especially if he was engaged to her behind your back.
If he's not telling you, he must know he shouldn't be doing it.
Sometimes when you've been married for a long time, things become stale and one or the other partners want to spice things up.
I'm not saying he's doing anything. He's probably not, but I think it's best to nip this in the bud. Don't let this linger. If he's thinking of doing something, it's best to keep the lines of communication open between the two of you. Talk to him and ask him if everything is okay. Tell him how you feel.
I hope everyting works out between the two of you.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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Thanks for the advice. We did have "the conversation" and basically he knew he did wrong in the first place by not telling me and the more time went on the harder it got.
I'm still not 100% comfortable but at least now it's out in the open.
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