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Hello,
I have a friend and her 13 y/o daughter who are driving me crazy. They are living with my family at the moment (for free) and I have helped her out with thousands of dollars in which I am now very bitter about, but that is besides the point. I am normally a very giving and patient person, but I am at the end of my rope and about to blow.
These two disagree with every single thing my son/daughter or I have to say. It doesn't matter if I say the sky is blue, they'd say it's green. I can't even hold a conversation with either of them. Typically I just say "I see your point" or "oh really" and back off for the sake of not arguing. It's insulting to do so, because many times they are not correct--but are know it alls.
How does one deal with people like this? (link)
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Hi,
from the sounds of your question, it seems as though you are one of those people pleaser such as myself.
YOur friend was in a bind and of course you wanted to help. It was the right thing to do. Did you think about it throughly before you invited them into your house rent free or was it one of those spur of the moment things? Either way can't be bitter about it now. It was your choice. It sucks. I know. I don't know their family situation.
I just hope that she is not using you. It sounds like she is beginning to take advantage just a bit. I understand your anger. I have a been there too many times to write about.
When people figure out how good natured you are, they take advantage. It lets you know what kind of friend she is. Don't sweat it.
However, you have to get them out of your house. If that's really what you want, go to her like a woman and tell her "I know I invited you and your family to stay and I really want to help you and I still do. But the situation as it is is not working out the way I hoped.
I want you and I to remain good friends, but I think it's best for you to move out. I will give you time to find a new place. I will even help you if I can. I still want the best for you."
If you don't do this, your resentment is going to build and you are going to really blow your top and you and your friend are going to end up enemies. Believe me she will respect you for your decision and she'll also know not to take advantage of you and your good nature again.
It's the first step into standing up for yourself. I hope I helped. It worked for me in similiar situations.
Good luck,
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You've helped a lot. Thanks :-) The trouble is..before I read your post, I became really angry, but I think I got my point across.
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