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Q: Okay sorry this might be long.

Alright so about a year ago, I dated this kid. Well he ended up cheating on me and i broke it off. A couple months later, we started talking again. ( I mean i feel so hard for this kid.) Well one day me him and a couple of our friends were having a little party, and he ended up getting with my best friend. SOAGAIN I was dicked over. So its been about 6months, and we finally started talking again, and of corse i'm starting to like him again and all this.. so we started talking on the phone at night and things, but a mutual friend called me and told me that i was leading him on and all this, and im really not trying to. I told him i still had feelings for him but only wanted to be friends but he doesn't seem to get it. And i was told that he was in such a goood mood now that we have been talking again, and i dont wanna be the one to make him in a bad mood. I just don't know what to do, if i should just break it off, try to stay friends, or just give him another chance.

You definitely should NOT give him another chance. You've given him two chances and he's betrayed your trust and hurt you twice.
What it comes down to is whether you're comfortable being just friends and can overcome any romantic feelings towards him for your sake. And secondly, whether he's willing to accept that you won't let him use you or hurt you anymore.
If he's not willing to just be friends with you and can't understand that you can't start a relationship with him again because he hurt you and betrayed your trust, then you need to break off from him. You can be friendly and say hi, but ultimately, ignore him and don't waste your time trying to befriend a guy who just doesn't get it.
Trust me, I just recently went through the same thing, until I found my current boyfriend. Things'll work out.

Hope I helped.