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Hey my name is Rachael and I'm sixteen years old. Like anyone else on this site, I love to help people. Ask me anything and I'll give the best possible answer I can!

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I like this guy in my class and he liked me over the summer but i'm not sure if he does now. Anyways, my friend kaysy always talks to him and he talks to her a lot but he talks to a lot of girls because he has a lot of friends that are girls. She on the other hand always talks to him and says " Me and him are such good friends, i just love him to death, he is just like a bro to me. " I know she would never do anything like go out with him or anything because she is my really good friend and she even says we would be cute together, etc. But it seems like she is flirting a lot. Idk if it is just her personality like that or not but i can't confront her about it because when i did she said "oh, i'm not flirting, i know he's all yours." And, he talks to a lot of girls so i don't know if he likes me or not. My friend megan said he flirts with me sometimes but i am really confused about it. Today he gave me a hug for the first time and i was really excited but he hugs a lot of girls. How do i find out if he likes me without being to obvious because i have to see him every day and i don't want to be embarrased around him all the time if he says no or something. Also, i am kinda shy so i don't want to do anything that is to outgoing. Thanks!

I've been through this, girl.
My best friend was friends with this guy that I really really liked and she knew that I liked him. Him and I would flirt and text allll the time but she'd STILL always call him and that pissed me off! Then she'd say to me "He's like a brother to me, I loveee himmm" BLAH I hated it! Well, him and I kept texting and talking on the phone and we eventually went on dates and then he asked me out :) and we've been together for 15 happy months :))

So here's what I think about your story. Your friend, whether or not she knows it or she's just competetive by nature, is competing with you. She knows you really like him, and she probably knows that you're really shy, right? She probably has a really jealous personality, no? She wants to see if she's more desirable than you. So I say, prove her wrong. Don't let her stop you from pursuing him. Keep flirting and talking and he'll eventually get the picture.

He's obviously just being a boy and trying to boost his ego by being around a lot of girls. Stand out from the other girls, try to make yourself more than that to him. And if you do, you don't need to find out if he likes you, he'll make it apparent.

Sorry for the reallyy long response! I just really want to help you because I see a lot of myself in you, and I reallyy want this to work out for you!

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(Rating: 5) Aww! Thank you so much!! This helps alot.
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