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I'm just your average 24 year old girl as far as looks can see. I know that I seem young, and let's be honest..I am. However, I've been through a lot of things in my life. Things at one point I thought would ruin my life...but guess what =) I'm still here. I've survived it all and now I want to help others do the same! And it wouldn't hurt for me to meet a few more people too!
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Hi, it's the summer time and two years ago I wrote a guy a letter telling him how I feel and he responded three months later over that very summer. We talked it seemed because his friend suggested it, and his friend said he was interested, he may have been lying. We talked for a week and maybe two days. Afterwards, never again. I got back to school and I couldn't even look him in the eye. He and I both would avoid eye contact and never spoke over 10 words to one another. Now he has a girlfriend. I want him to be happy. I spent most of my summer not thinking of him, but afraid when the time came for me to return to school that the feelings would return. I saw him 4 days ago and I felt a jolt when our eyes met for a heartbeat. I'm afraid and I feel pathetic, which I am kind of. I don't want to like him. I want to be over him. But how do I handle these residual feelings that keep returning?
Hun, I feel sooo sorry for you right now. This situation is a very difficult one. Well first off, you are NOT pathetic! You just need to find a way to make yourself realize that this will not work out. If you have to, make a list of all the cons. The first one being the fact that he is taken. Remember that the past is there for a reason. I would definitely continue to avoid him as best as possible. You can't even be friends right now because of these feelings. Hang out with a circle of friends that he is not included in. Don't go out of your way to say anything to him unless it is "hi" while passing in the hallways. I know that right now it seems that this will never end, but I know that soon you will realize that he was just a stepping stone to the guy you truly deserve to be with! I wish you the best of luck, and PLEASE let me know how things are going. Drop me a line sometime. Good luck hun. (PS. Another thing that helped me was keeping a journal. I would write a letter to the guy I like - one that he will NEVER receive - just to get my feelings out on paper. Once you get some of those feelings out, it's easier to control them.)
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Thank you honey, I'm Courtney by the way. Thanx, I needed it. I avoid him, it's just the fear of falling for him all over again. It's torture. Nevertheless, thanx for the advice.
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