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So everytime i get a boyfriend that i do really like, my feelings change all of a sudden. and i dont want anything to do with them. and i dont know why. i mean i really do like them, but i find ways to avoid them sometimes. its so weird. or i get worried that there too obsessive.[sp] and i dont know its so weird.
can anybody tell me why? or anything about this.
thank you!

Aw, I hate having this problem -- It's so weird, right!?

In my opinion, it's usually an issue of it not being a challenge anymore. You're not trying to get the guy anymore so you don't have to be quite as flirty, or work towards anything, really. If this seems like an issue, wait it out. It gets better with time, and if you really like a guy, it won't be a problem at all. Also, make your own little challenges up. Falling in love, lasting a certain amount of time, getting to a certain physical level, doing a certain fun date, etc. Remember that even if you're already with a guy, you still gotta work! (;

If you're worried they're too "obsessive", you've gotta try to put that out of your mind. This could seem annoying once you start dating a guy, but when you start to REALLY like them, it's a good thing. You know you can trust them a ton and that they won't hurt you, to look on the positive side. If it really bothers you THAT much, think about why he seems "obsessed", and think about whether or not he actually even is. Just don't shy away if he seems like he is -- Embrace it! Make this guy really want you.

The avoiding them is also kind of a common issue a lot of girls surprisingly have. If you don't feel comfortable alone with them, start off with hanging out with a group of friends, then alone just cuddling or watching movies or something -- It's not so bad. If you just want your own time, that's also completely fine, just make time for your guy.

Really, there's no specific way to fix these problems. I can tell you from experience it takes a lot of time and patience, and sometimes not even that. Sometimes you'll find these things won't bother you at all very randomly. Once you find someone you REALLY want to be with and know a lot about already, it'll be effortless.

If this all continues to be an issue, I'd recommend you try to find someone you're very close with already, feel comfortable hanging out alone with (as friends first), and REALY want.

XOXO
KAT.

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