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a guy asked me out and we are making plans to hang out this weekend. were going to watch a movie together at a mall. this is the first time im ever going on a date with a guy and i really need some pointers and tips on what to say, do, act etc. please help! im really nervous!!

and i also asked my bff to come with me (shes bringing her boyfriend) because my parents wont let me go out unless i bring a friend with.

HELP IM FREAKING OUT HERE!!

First, deep breath! Relax, it's all going to be fine! Going to the movies for the first date is one of the most relaxing things you can do. And if you're nervous, it's really one of the best things you can do, too. It gives you a chance to interact/joke, but you're not forced to really hold a deep conversation or anything like that.

Just first, ask if he's the type to talk or anything like that during a movie. You wouldn't want to go on while he's trying to pay attention, or completely stay quiet when he'd rather be talking to you. Just ask him over messanger or before the movie or something. Also, don't be scared to cuddle or hold his hand or something! Be close: Guys notice the little things even if you don't think they do.

If you're eating or something afterwards, make sure you just think about having a good time. Be confident in the things you're doing, and be happy. If you make it like you're enjoying yourself, other people will to. Ask your friend beforehand to make sure she'll help start conversations instead of separating her and her boyfriend from you guys. If you need help, kinda hint at it to her.

Just remember to be yourself. Don't dress differently or act differently because this is a 'date' and not a 'hang out'. This guy asked you on a date because he enjoys being around you, not some nervous girl whose trying to impress him, haha. Basically, act the way you've been acting around him thus far. Just get a little.. closer. (:

It'll all be okay, and you'll have tons of fun! Afterwards you'll just think "Wow, what was I so nervous about?" It's like going into high school: Nervous until you try it out. :D

XOXO
KAT.

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