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I am WAY to shy! I am starting highschool this year, in 2 weeks and I REALLY want to make some new friends. I mean, I guess I have a lot of friends but I'm finding it more and more difficult to act like myself around them. Even my best friend in the world can't entertain me. I can't hold up a conversation at ALL so I usually find myself complaining about something as a sort of "default conversation topic", which I KNOW people find complaining annoying but it's better to be talking about something than not be talking at all right?? I just don't know how to do this. I'd like to have a little group of best friends that all like each other and then a larger group of friends to hang with and stuff. Most of my friends don't really like each other, unfortunately :( there's also this little group of friends I know that are really cool and we have a lot in common but i'm not sure how I would approach them...I just don't know. PLEASE help me!!!

Being shy is honestly extremly common and normal. The only way to get over it though, is to conquer your fears. I know how hard it can be, I've been there with other fears too. If your in Science class one day and a girl has a shirt on you like, just say "I like your shirt." That happened with my little sister (but it was shoes) her and that girl have been best friends for years. It's all about over coming fear, once you can get past the whole scaryness of talking to someone you don't know you can meet more people.

If your having a hard time talking to people your already friends with, don't talk. If your friends into soccer, go out side and play. I can almost garuntee you, it will lead to some sort of conversation. If they like theater, watch a play (maybe DVD version though), theres endless possibilities, it just takes some creativity.

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