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For some reason, I can't cry at funerals because I just don't cry that often.

But I was wondering if this was bad or heartless? Because once my cousin got mad at me because I wasn't crying at her dad's funeral and it makes me feel awful that I can't cry during these times.

Are there any other ways to display emotion, if not in tear-form?

First, I'm sorry for your cousin's loss. However, it's not your fault if you can't cry at the drop of a hat or anything. She was probably upset at the circumstances already, and the fact that you weren't showing the same emotion probably seemed very strange/cold to her. She probably just didn't understand that you don't cry much.

Some people don't cry over ANYTHING. It's a fairly natural thing, and it's just as normal as people who cry too much, really. Just know that it's not your fault. It's just the way you are. It's not 'bad' or 'heartless' at all. It's not like you felt GOOD about the funeral or anything.

If you'd still like to display your emotion, just be very solemn. If you have to, keep your head down, and look discoraged if need be. However, you don't HAVE to make yourself look completely depressed. If something bad is going on, try to take care of the people around you. Since you seem to be a very strong person, talk to others about how they're feeling, and see if there's anything you can do to help.

Also, say how you're feeling. It's not as common anymore, but there's nothing at all wrong with it. Most people would prefer someone to say how they're feeling than to have to figure it out through their display of emotions.

You're fine the way you are, so don't worry!

XOXO
KAT.

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