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Q: 17 female.

So Ive been dating the guy of my dreams for about 7 months now. The problem is... hes not as perfect as I thought he would be.

He's had alot of girlfriends before, and hes slept with 4 of them, including a co-worker he never actually dated.

Hes the only guy Ive ever had sex with, so its hard for me. Its intimidating, and I feel like Im not good enough as they were and all the other stupid stuff us girls think about.

I feel like if I don't get over it, it's going to ruin the relationship eventually.

Hes told me repeatedly that they mean nothing to him and tried to reassure me but nothing really seems to help. Anyone got a good idea?

The last thing you want to hear is probably get over it. So I'm not going to say that.

Now is he not perfect as you thought he would be because he's had sex before and you feel like you can't measure up to them?

If that's so, then you need to try to keep in mind that he's not with those girls. He's with you. So it's obvious that he's with you for a reason. If he was comparing you to those other girls, he would've been gone already, right?

That's the bottom line of my advice: Try not to worry so much about the past. Because it already happened. Right now, it's all you.

cheers,
stargirl