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Photobucket" align=left hspace=10> Allooooo~ well to start off...I go by as Dennise and giving advice is what I'm here to do and I plan to provide whatever assistance I can offer to the best of my abilities.

I've had my share of ups-and-downs (don't we all) and I'm more than willing enough to help those that ask.

In fair warning: I won't give answers that are "gusshied with sprinkles on top" (or whatever things that that line follows). I will be blunt if the situation calls for it...either you take the honest words or brush it off and go search for a lie~ all in all, it's entirely your choice.
Advice is simply there for people to brood and consider over, not a forceful act.

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Alright, well, I know during the summer alot of people are going on vacation and things, but that's usually only been the case with a couple of my friends. My best friends and me always talk during the summer and hang out and keep in contact as much as we can.


Well, this summer seems to be different. Nobody's really been calling me, or asking me to do anything. My one best friend stopped talking to me for three weeks, and only the other day texted me to tell me how her and another friend of mine got backstage passes to this show. That doesn't make me jealous or anything, and she doesn't seem like the type of person to plot something like that, so it just made me wonder: "why text me now? and why tell me that specifically, really?"


My birthday was also a couple weeks ago. Had a couple "happy birthday" comments sent my way, which was nice, but nobody asked if I wanted to do anything. Even if they were busy THAT day, a hang out offer for another day would've sufficed. I know birthday's [ especially a 17th cause nothing too special happens ] isn't a humungous deal, but I'm the type of person that when things happen with/to friends, it affects me inside.


It's just been confusing me and making me angry. Sitting inside my house alot of my summer, spending my whole birthday alone in my room watching movies, just been making me feel really lonely lately and that either I'm the problem, or the people I have friendships with are the problem. I think it's just dawning on me now cause I keep thinking how it's my senior year, I figured everyone'd wanna especially get together now, this maybe being our "final summer" to spend together and final school year to hang and have a great year together, and ignoring me... isn't the best start.

I'm not even sure what advice I'm asking for here, I think I just wanted to see what other people's views on this was. If they've had friends like this as well, if it's just a "phase" that we all go through, everyone goes through a million friends.

I definitely understand what you're going through, and the feeling of loneliness can kind of drive you berserk especially during summer when most of the time there isn't much to do. It's very very difficult to accept the possibilities that you and your friends are just drifting. It's also hard to keep telling yourself that it's normal for friends to drift apart and to move on because you fear that you are losing the people you have known for such a long time. But in time, you'll come to accept the way things are and you'll start moving on as well and make new friends.

Still, you can keep in touch with some of them. Just send your friends an invitation to go somewhere like swimming at a public pool or just hang out at places your familiar with at least. When you have the feeling that no one is making the move, you can be the one to give a nudge and don't hesitate to call or text someone! You'll be surprised at whatever comes.

Remember that in life, there will always be "hellos" and "goodbyes."

I hope I helped a little! =3



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(Rating: 5) Thank you, you helped alot. I feel better about everything.
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