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I'm a vegan. I like glam rock and androgynous males. I have two cats. they're mystical beings. I'm going to college in less than a month.

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16/f
im bisexual and i admitt im not a virgin
i have different feelings for guys and girls
Guys: it feels better to do it with a guy than a girl
Girls:im more attracted to a girl than a guy and they turn me on more than a guy does

for the past 3 yrs ive been bi and for the past 1ish years its been getting awkward for me, lately everytime i see a naked guy i have to cough out the gag so i wont affend the guy. AND its been getting harder and harder to be turned on enough for a guy even to get in me in the first place...
the question is am i a future lesbo?



the position that world (at least the liberal world) is moving towards is that sexuality is a continuum that shifts throughout your life. this idea rings especially true for those who consider themselves bisexual. for instance, while I have only been with men in the past, I am now with a woman and know that there's a slim chance I'll ever be with a man again knowing how wonderful relationships with women are and how well they fit into who I am. it makes more sense this way and I am happy this way, so it is who I choose to be though technically, I am still bisexual because I will still keep the faint possibility open that some man will come along. it's just not a high priority to find him now that I've accepted that my mind is hardwired to be attracted to men and women.

all of this took me about 5 years to figure out and a good 6 months to fully accept and acknowledge. don't box yourself in until you explore all the boxes and don't box yourself in at all if you're not comfortable with them.

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(Rating: 5) thx and i know that this isn't a bad thing its just who i am...
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