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Hi all,
I came to this site by chance and now that I have arrived I hope I can be of some help. I'm known to be blunt but my bark is worse than my bite:-). I believe people deserve honesty and not to just be told what they want to hear all the time so that is my approach. I have had a lot of ups and downs through life and I have turned a lot of negatives into positives. I have also learned a lot about the nature of people through my trials and hopefully I may be able to help someone help themselves to continue living a happy and prosperous life. Thanks for the opportunity!

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ok i have a boyfriend and i think me and him are getting pretty serious. and im pretty sure i love him. And that makes me really scared and it makes me want to cry. lol im a nerd, i know. But its really scary. Im kinda scared of commintment(sp?)
iv never really stayed with one guy for long. And i really love him and i want to stay with him. My heart says stay. But my mind says go...Even though hes all i think about anymore. Iv never been in love. SO i guess what im asking is,
how can i be less scared of being in love?
How do i really know im in love?
How can i make my heart and mind agree with eachother. (lol)
Because i really dont want to hurt him again....

I say do nothing because what you are feeling is what all of us older cats fall in love for:-). I can't remember the last time I felt like that because now I mostly think with my head and not my heart. I am still a hopeless romantic though and I think it is natural to feel a little scared when you love someone because unlike just being IN love, there is more at stake. Your heart your pride and your self esteem. By now though, it is too late to turn back because your heart is as good as gone:-D. Just go with the flow and it will settle down soon enough and you will enjoy the feeling. But maybe even later down the road you will feel scared from time to time as your love grows. Real love is deeper than infatuation and hopefully it will bring positive experiences to your life...I thin k you will not hurt him if you accept what you are feeling and don't run from your feelings. Try being the best of friends first even if you tell him something different. Sometimes its the pressure of commitment that makes us uncomfortable. Does that help?

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(Rating: 5) yes. thank you soo much. so it is normal to be scared? or am i just a weirdo lol.
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