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So I know this guy.
We used to like eachother
and then all of a sudden he freaked out and stopped talking to me.
and then a couple weeks later he said he wanted to be cool with me... we were both at a party and we got drunk and he coaxed me into his bedroom and made out and some clothes flew off and I asked him I was like why are you doing this I thought you hated me?
and he kept saying over and over again I like you I like you...bla bla bla
soo I beleived it at the time.
And then after that of course he didnt call me or anything.
But then like a long time later after pissing each other off a bunch. We finally see eachother at a small party at my friends house.
He says hey to me in the beginning and we talked and laughed (when sober)
even when he was with another girl...
So we are getting drunk having fun playing beer pong. And I put in tech 9 and he's like telling me to danceee and im like okayyy so i do
and he's like omg I fuckin love you
and later we are laughin havin a frikin blast getting more drunk takin pictures
and he was like treatin me like we have known eachother forever
and everytime i did or said something funny he would be like i love her everyone i love roxie
and he wasnt even trying to take advantage of me he had another girl with him
and before I thought he like hated me cause he used to talk shit all the time...and then he started being nice to me again...idk if thats a way of covering up his tru feelings or what
but i wanted to know if someone like that could lie when drunk?
after that he was passed the fuck out throwin up...
sooo yeah just wondering
if maybe his thoughts might be covered up
until his liquid courage brings it out
or if he is a liar sober and an even bigger one drunk?
kay this may sound confusing but please try and answer it thanks :D


Alcohol is a social lubricant, it lowers inhibitions, we know that for sure, which is why you both were more willing to get along better even though you've had a rough history. the effects of it as a truth serum are a lot less evident, though. "the drunk tongue speaks the sober heart" probably shouldn't be applied to binge drinkers, because (atleast in my experience at one of the top party schools in the nation) someone who is wasted is a completely different person (mentally/emotionally) than their sober half. call it bi-polar or alcoholism or whatever you want, but if you can't make it work SOBER to begin with, then it is time to move on.. because even if his true feelings are that he likes you, his sober self will not let himself come to terms with it, and there is nothing you can do about that (i know, it sucks). just try to cherish the memories you made, and maybe he will be ready some day in the future.. until then, it's time for you to move on!

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