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My friend (15/F) is definitely over weight. I know that nobody's perfect, and stuff. But she's at the point where it's a potential health risk! It could possibly be my fault for not helping her earlier, but I can't exactly change that now.

Her parents don't exactly help, though. Her dad makes unhealthy, meaty, casseroles almost every night. So, she isn't used to eating healthy foods. And I guess she's too oblivious to notice what she's eating.

Her parents also pressure her a lot. For example, there isn't a waking moment when her dad isn't nagging about some sort of walking. To be blunt, both of her parents are always reminding her of her obesity.

She has a short attention span, and gets annoyed by anything repetitive in the least bit. So, repeating exercises makes her walk away.

She recently bought a Jane Fonda exercise tape, which she used when she was younger to lose weight (which worked). She is convinced that only that exercise tape will work. After a month, she still hasn't received the tape (yes, I'm sure that she did order it).

My question is: how do I help her lose weight without being too pushy? Or should I just wait for the tape? But what if it takes months before she gets the tape?

Also: she will do almost anything I say, as long as it's not too harsh. So, obedience isn't an issue. She's just really impatient and ADD.

SORRY for the massive question! I tried to make it easier to read! Thank you for any answers!

Well, let's see.. FIRST you're right there is no need to be pushy, bossy or controlling just because you have a great influence on her. Since you hang with her, why not suggest eating salads on the nights you're over there, instead of what her dad fixed.

There's dance videos that help with excercising - My favorite one is hip hop abs - it's all that, these videos are actually teaching how to dance at the same time, it's not the same ole' school excercises.

You can also make suggestions, like hey, let's go walking at the park today or tomorrow and see what's going on there. I know our parks here are all that and I go all the time and walk. Basically, be supportive of her and there for her too, doing these activities with her. I am sure she will appreciate the time being spent and not take it the hard way. You can even tell her that you are trying to tone up yourself and ask if she will do it with you. keyword is togetherness -

good luck and you're a good friend to be concerned and supportive regarding your friend!

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