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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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My ex boyfriend moved to Sweden for two years, and we've talked on msn every day and stuff, and now he's moved back to our town.
I was so fucking happy when he called me and said ''I'm back in town, let's meet at Starbucks at 12''
So I go there to meet him, and I didn't see him anywhere.
I look around and there's a guy waving at me.
And I did a double take.
Before he left, he had blonde hair, messy, some piercings, and gauged ears.
Now, he has black long hair, more piercings and something that makes me want to cry, he's gauged his center lip piering to a 00g
( like this guy's lip:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/05-lips/A80502/high/npqe-rafa-e-dessa-9829.jpg)

Meanwhile I've had some boyfriends, and he's had some girlfriends, but I wanted to start dating him again.
But now...I feel so unattracted to him :(
I mean, I can't even kiss him. And he talks all weird.
And he's changed too. He's obsessed with gauging his lip now, and he thinks I should gauge my lip too.

What do I do now?
I still love him, but I feel like I love him as a friend, and he wants to get back together.

Help?

The first thing that needs to be done is telling him you don't want anything piercing through your lip. Changing yourself for someone else will just end in you losing yourself entirely. I have had that happened to me and it is not a path I would suggest to anyone. Not knowing who you really are or who you once were is a scary thing.

A good way to gently tell someone you want to be their friend is to tell the truth. The truth is when he first left you both were on the same page, had things in common, and had a very good relationship. The time you have been apart has changed both of you. You don't know him anymore and he doesn't know you. You realize now that you have grown apart as people. You are not sure if you can have the same relationship you once had because it has been so long and you both have changed so much.

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(Rating: 5) Yeah.
I have a side labret (had it for a year now) and some other piercings, but those were for me, not for anyone else.
He's basically asked me to put a fucking tunnel in a piercing that I love very much.

Thanks for answering :)
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