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ok...
so i dated my best friend...
and i know your not supposed to...
but i did, and believe it or not, it worked out well.
Unfortunately, after 2 years together, he out of the blue, decided he wasnt sure how he felt anymore, and we broke up.
At first, things were rough, we considered getting back together, and he knew he still had feelings for me.

Here we are, a year later. We are still best friends, and talk every day.
We never got back together, and after that first week, he never told me he loved me ever again.

I have never stopped loving him through it all.

I've seen a therapist, and have pretended its not happening.

I've told him my feelings, then didnt mention it again after he said he felt different.

I've dated others in hope that maybe it would make me forget.

I've tried everything! But, a year later, and I still love him.

I'm not even asking what to do anymore...
I would honestly just like to hear some thoughts on this...

am I nuts or what? should I continue living life unhappy like this? Is there anyhting I havent tried?

Since you're not asking what to do anymore, I won't mention it."smile"

No, you aren't nuts at all, however you shouldn't continue living your life unhappily regardless of this situation or any other situation. I don't think you were wrong for dating your best frienf either. *As you move forward in your life, one day you will end up marrying someone, right? A key indicator of a successful relationship, leading to marriage is friendship* remember that.

By pretending that things aren't happening, you are falsifying fact of life. You aren't being real with yourself, which is going to delay your healing and cause stagnation AND cause you to stay in the past because you are telling yourself that you can't let go. There's nothing wrong at all with having feelings for someone you used to be involved with, there are problems with continuing communication and being friends with an ex if you aren't ready to accept it for what it is, because again, YOU are delaying healing within yourself. There's also issues with dating before being ready. Question for your mind: Can you drive if the passenger's side door isn't closed, even if you opened and closed the driver side to get into the car? You have to have closure before opening new relationships or they aren't ever going to work and you will contine being unhappy. Please provide yourself the closure you need in order to be happy so that you can move on in your life. It takes time, and time heals all wounds, cuts, bruises, sores and pain.

Good luck dear heart! You're a beautiful person full of sunshine, stop standing in the rain - by your own choice and control.

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(Rating: 5) thanks for your advice, if nothing else it made me feel better =)
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