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16/m

ok so i broke up with my girlfriend two nights ago


so i've been going out with this girl for a year and 3 months or so. i loved her very much. very, very much, and i still care very much about her, but i just wasn't happy anymore. i wasn't having fun anymore with her. all our conversations were becoming nothing other than "i love you's" and talking about sex and stuff (we never had it. . . got kind of close a couple times). we fought a lot recently, particularly about how much we saw each other (at least once a week) and that i was putting my music (i'm in a band) before her (which shouldn't happen apparently), and it was starting to stress me out way too much. i got little sleep and worried about it a lot. . .

and then i couldn't do it anymore.


i still really care a lot about her, and in the back of my mind i feel like i made a really big mistake. . . but the rest of me thinks it's for the better.

could anyone help me out here?


thanks

First, I am not really sure of what you need help with. I will say this: if you broke up with her because you were stressing out and felt confused or over whelmed, then maybe it was best to give it a little space for both of you.(especially with the fighting and disagreements). There is no time limit set on how much time is needed to breathe, step back and look at your relationship from the outside. If you feel that you have done this and you are ready to try it again:

call her, I am sure you guys are still friends, and talk. Tell her that you miss her and would like to start all over again without discussing the past disagreements -instead of discussing those, discuss the opposite which is what to do to prevent those fights. I don't think you made a mistake at all. I think you were mature and knowing when to say when, and you did that. It depends on what it is that you want and if you know that, then do what you gotta do. If you still have a question based on your decision of what you want to do, hit me up and we can go there. sophia_pettus@yahoo.com or you can hit me up in my inbox here, which ever you want works for me.

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(Rating: 4) thanks a ton
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