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okay so I like this guy I'm 15/f and ill be 16 in october he just turned 20 june and I realllyy like him I'm pretty sure he likes me but I'm not positive but we have been talking a lot lately and I have sent him pictures of me but I'm fully clothed. we have talked about doing stuff and we are going to hangout. I am a virgin and I want to loose it to him I'm pretty sure he will take it. anyway is that considered statitory rape if I'm 16? I really like him and he likes me he said he wouldn't date me until I'm 18 because he cares about me and we don't want to get introuble I want to be withhim bad but do you also think he's using me? thank you for reading and thank you for responding

Dear heart,

I promise you that I understand what you are feeling, even to the extent of what you want to do. I am not sure of the state you are in, but yes in most states it is considered as statutory rape, seriously.

I know you want to lose your virginity to him, but please think about this: if you are questioning if he could be using you or not, why would you want to give him something so precious? Being a virgin at your age, is great and shouldn't be given to someone whom you have so many questions about. You are questioning the age factor, if he is using you, as well as if he likes you (you are saying you are pretty sure, that he likes you but you aren't positive). Sex is to be done with love is a factor, not possible like. Hey, read what you wrote: at first you said you're not positive that he likes you- then you say, you really like him and he likes you and that he cares for you.

Do me a favor and most importantly do yourself a favor: Ask him to wait. Tell him that you aren't ready yet and that there are some things that you must find out about yourself before you lose your virginity. Upon doing this, talk to your parents about him, and his age. Do they know about him? Do they know his age? It is really only a 4 year difference, and I DON'T see that as a huge age difference, however when sexual activity becomes involved, it changes my views from a legal stand point & from a parent view.

If your parent's are willing to accept your involvement with a 20 year old (which if you were my daughter, I wouldn't accept it for the fact that I KNOW sex would become an issue) but I would at least allow him to come over with me there. I would let them talk on the phone, and as years go by once she's 17 or 18, I guess I would have to accept it if he made her happy and invested time into getting to know her and allowing her to get to know him. You feel me?

I am pretty sure he will take it too, he's a guy, hell a man and you're a virgin. Not only that you're younger than he is and still a teenager.

Do some research - call up an attorney in your state, don't give your name or his name - and ask them the ages that statutory rape is considered valid.

Good luck, be careful and think really hard, do some soul searching dear, once you do that, please try to make sound judgment that is beneficial to your life and future.

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(Rating: 5) yes, I have talked to my parents about this he is a really good guy and they like him they are fine with us dating. thank you sooo much for your advice it made me rethink a lot if he really likes me he will wait for me
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