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Q: You gave me such great advice on this question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=539679
That was a month ago but i still have the same problem!

I really have been thinking about what you said. About not ending things. The problem with this whole thing is that i want to be with him, i just know its not whats best for me right now. I cant enjoy my friends and my life when im thinking about him. So i dont know what to do because i like him so much, and i miss him but i know i shouldnt. And im happier without him. But im so happy with him. And im torn between the two. And i can get over him when hes gone but then ill run into him or hell call me in the middle of the night and it all goes down the drain. We wer talking until three last night! And we both log off at the same time and go straight to sleep so hes the last person i talk to and its driving me crazy! I have to get over him, and have him get over things also so that we dont go back to eachother. I told him al of this, and he sais he respects my decision but he dosent agree because he thinks its too much hurt for both of us. But he wont stop texting me! And its my fault for answering.

So do you think i should just stop answering?

If i dont hell just send me a really sweet text like "you looked so cute today" and i melt and then i have to answer!

Is he manipulating me or just trying too hard?

It dosent help that the whole world is trying to set us up!

Im in over my head and i just want to get out. I heard the easiest way out is in but im willing to take the hard way i just need some guidence. Help please! Thank you so so much! =)
Hey there,
Have you told him "i want to be with him, i just know its not whats best for me right now. I cant enjoy my friends and my life when im thinking about him. So i dont know what to do because i like him so much"? If not then you should.

Don't let him talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Relationships are serious to alot of people. I know they are to me, and if your not looking for anything serious right now then just talk to him about it.
Tell him if he respects you and really does care he should give you the time and space you need.

If he still goes on, try not even reading the texts, just delete them incase he does say something sweet. It's hard to tell if he's manipultating you or trying to hard. I did the same thing to a girl once and just kept trying to push her into going out with me.
Happy to say... I don't do that anymore because it just pushes them farther away.
I'm sorry you're in this situation.
Best of Luck!

-Austin

Thanks so much! that was rly great

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