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My husband is 29, his sister is my age 21. They have, in my opinion, the most inappropriate relationship ever. She'll come and just sit in his lap and cuddle up with him. Or if shes sitting on the couch he will sorta attack her in a huge bear hug and end up on top of her. Once he was eating dessert and she came and sat on his lap and he started to feed her from his dessert. He didn't even think to offer me until after she had already eaten from his spoon. I don't know what all of you think, but I find this utterly disgusting...its weird, gross, and just plain wrong!
I talked to him about it, and he felt that I was being ridiculous and said that I have intimacy issues because in my family we are not all over each other. yaa we give hugs and stuff..but wrestling with each other on the couch and sitting on laps, and feeding each other...thats just weird. He was like, she is my sister! I told him, "EXACTLY! she's your sister...thats why I have such a problem with this". I even told him that I dont want her sitting on his lap any more..shes not a small child and its not cute when she comes and sits on his lap. He had the nerve to tell me he'll think about it...not okay I understand this is bothering you and I'll stop... he's just going to think about it. How wonderful..
I know no one can really do anything about this, but I guess I just need to see what others think about this. Is it just me or is it weird for siblings to treat each other the same way they would treat their significant others; minus the kissing on the lips and sex?
All answers are welcome and much appreciated. :) (link)
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Wow... that is.... that is just abnormal.
I mean, I've known some people to just plain BE closer to their siblings than their significant others, but that is just a lot to be worried about.
There may be a severe dependency issue on her part. An eight year difference is a lot, but there may be something that you haven't been told that explains why she's just so attached.
Ask again, but don't be confrontational about it. Say that you're worried, and just want to understand.
I also recommend doing research on what you may think this is, just to tell if you can see signs beyond just a really odd attachment.
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Thanks so much...nice to know I'm not just a crazy jealous bitch with intimiacy issues.. :S
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