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My names Tina, and I have been through a lot of bad and good things in my life. While the bad things were occurring, i always wished that it was never happening, but when it was over, i realize that without those bad moments, i would never have been the way i am right now and certain very enjoyable moments would've never been experienced. so remember, people, EVERY bad moment in life is the cause of more than ONE very good one. trust me, i know. ;P

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Ok so my best friend has been through a lot this year. a little while ago i was pretty much her only friend then i got her reaquanted with her old friend that moved away who was also a very good friend of mine. now the friend that moved away,becca, has this brother that i really like. and she knows that and is cool with me likeing her brother. when i introduced the other girl sarah to all of them she started liking the brother. and she knows that i have liked him for a while. then this other guy came in and his name is john. he liked me and i kinda liked him but i still like the brother a lot more.and so i didnt know what i should do about my friend because i didnt want a boy to mess up a great friendship and i really want my friend to be happy. and i kinda thought that she might back off since she knows that i have liked him. so i decided that i will have john and she can have the brother. and now they are about to become a couple. and honestly im really happy for her but it hurts and i havent been around both of them yet and im scared that i might get jealous or that its just really goin to hurt to where i cant hang out with them. i guess the main thing that i feel is that my best friend came in grabed the guy i like and doesnt realize how that makes me feel. and i have helped her through alot of hard times. i have told her how i feel about him and she says that she will back off if i want her to but what friend would acctually tell her friend to back off. ok well if anybody can acctually understand this please help. sorry its confusing

thats messed up what your friend did to you. she knew you liked him and she didnt know it was wrong? how could she stand to be a couple with the "brother" if she knew you actually knew him? well ,the thing is, its not right. you are being such a good friend to this girl and shes not feeling guilty about this at all? if so, this isnt true friend and you shouldnt have done that for her. i dont think she cares. is she was, she wouldve felt guilty and back off becuse she has to know that you were wanting her to bak off. you did that for her, she would not do that for you. she obviously sees love relationships as a more important thing than friendships.

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i didnt mean to say that what you did was wrong, i think itsz too nice in fact. i just mean that your friend should actually consider your feelings. i would talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. Im just saying she obviously knows that you are feeling this way, it would be hard to believe it if she didnt. well, u dont have to end the friendship that is not what im saying. you should probably talk to her about this and make sure that she knows how ur feeling. talk it out with her, and i really hope it works out. :) good luck

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(Rating: 4) yeah i guess your right but i mean what do i say to her. i've already told her i liked him, very recently in fact, but she is still goin for him. and if they do start goin out there goin to be with alot of my other friends so its not like i can stop bein her friend. shes really fun to be with and has helped me sometimes to and so i dont really want to end our friendship. i guess i will just view our friendship differently. what do you think?
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