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So there's this guy (there always is..) who I half-like. (I say "half" because I have all the symptoms of liking him.. but can't possibly actually do so). Either way: He really is the sweetest guy and soo much fun to be around!

Now to the problem: He likes me. Not HALF-likes me. He really likes me. I've been through this before (hundreds of times) so I know what my options are:

A: Keep spending time with him, watch him fall for me, then reject him and break his heart when he asks me out.. and lose him forever.
B: Stop spending time with him to ultimately spare his feelings.. and lose him forever.
C: Tell him the truth, slowly see how things change between us and get awkward.. and lose him forever.
D: Say yes when he asks me out, because after all I do "half-like" him.. (well, I guess this is the option I've never been brave enough to try with any of the other guys.. but I'm pretty sure it follows the pattern and ends with..) .. and lose him forever.

You wanna make my day by adding a fifth option?
Thank you! :)

Stop trying to see the end of the journey before you take the first step on the road. Stop worrying about what has happened.

Stop trying to decide if it's a "half like or a full like" and just spend time with him if you enjoy his company.

My bet is that you know how it will end because you have already made up your mind. Is it more that you don't want to get serious with him because you're afraid of what other people will think? If he really is the "sweetest guy and sooo much fun" then you have nothing to lose by spending time with him. If your concern is what others will think of you when you are with him or their opinions about the two of you together then you aren't ready for a serious relationship with anyone. Yes, you may get hurt but I guarantee it won't be wasted time because if you learn something you have never wasted your time. You can't learn to really love--yourself or anyone else if you don't get hurt a time or two. Life is too short to worry about what might happen. Enjoy what is happening and see where it goes.

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(Rating: 5) Impressive -- you really did see through me on this one. I am TERRIFIED of what people would think. Thanks for your advice, I'll remember it.
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