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okay so im 15....



and



pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.


anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..

REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!

also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.

so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.

how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.

when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?

can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?

either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.


i live in florida if that helps?
thank you.

No, he can not force you to get an abortion. He may try to force you to have one with emotional threats and pressure but he can't force you to have one. Your Dr can't even tell him you're pregnant if you don't want him to tell.

It doesn't sound like the safest environment for you or the baby to be in at this time, is there somewhere you can go if he kicks you out? Where's your mom?

I was pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16. She is almost 17 now and we had hard times but we made it and she is a great kid. Young parents have it hard but if you make it a priority to do the best you can and then do better you will make it. Stay in school and go to college whether the father stays with you or not. Learn to be self sufficient for you and your child so that you don't fall into the traps a lot of young mothers do and become dependent on someone else to take care of the two of you.

As for dealing with your dad, you have a couple of options. You can do what I did and have the school counselor tell your parents. You can talk with your boyfriend's parents and gather their advice before you talk with your dad or you can just tell him yourself and wait for the reaction. Either way go to planned parenthood and get a check up until you can get to a regular OB/GYN.

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(Rating: 5) yeah i told him
he freaked out
but he didnt kick me out
i knew he wouldnt anyways
my mom calmed him down
and of course everyday i hear abortion from him but its all okay now. hes still pretty pissed but hes promised to support me.
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