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okay so im 15....



and



pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.


anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..

REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!

also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.

so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.

how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.

when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?

can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?

either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.


i live in florida if that helps?
thank you.

Wow, this is a really difficult situation. I'm really sorry to see that you need to go through this.

First, like the others said, talk to your Mom. Don't be too afraid that she'll be angry, because that dosen't really matter at this point. She'll be able to understand and help you. Let her know how set you are on keeping this, and that you think it's wrong to get rid of the baby. Plead for her help, she's your parent, too.

After you talk to your Mom, I'd reccomend to have HER talk to your Dad before you. Possibly try to get a counsilor and you could all talk it through there--that way, no one can get TOO hot headed, and you'll have an outside person to be able to help ya'll out. (Really, it seems like a hassle, but try this--it'll be worth it).

In the mean time, let your Dad know most of the reasons abortions are wrong. Really, you never know who could be born, and I'm sure you're trying to make him understand that the baby should have the right to life. Also, let him know that uncommon to popular belief, someone of your age CAN take care of a baby. No, it's not easy at all, but it's possible. Many of my friends had very young mothers, and their, as well as their children's lives are going very well. Another example is a girl in my Italian class who had her daughter her Freshman year. She's literally one of the smartest people I know. Basically, a baby DOES make things more difficult, but if you let your parents know you'll still be the best person possible, everything will be fine.

Also, I'm nearly certain that he can't force you to do this. Even if your Mother agrees with his choice to 'drop you off at a Clinic', you don't HAVE to do anything. Let your parents know what people who go through with abortions actually go through--depression is usually a pretty common thing, along with regret. No one can force you to go through that, it's your choice. In fact, if he drops you off, you could always go inside and talk to the professionals there about what your options are, I'm sure they'll want to help you out as much as possible.

Things will be difficult, but you'll get through them! Email me if you need anything.

XOXO
KAT.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much. i wouldnt do the counselor thing. last time we tried family conseloing me and my brothers almost got taken away...but thanks for the idea on it. im going to tell my mom tomorrow and figure everything out with her. thank you so much
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