Hello everyone. My name here on advicenators is Solcito. It's a nickname my ex-girlfriend gave me that basically means little sun. That's the only personal information I really want to give out. In the short time that I have inhabited this planet I feel that I have experienced enough to make good judgment in most situations. I've fallen in love, had my heart broken, been mugged, made and lost a ton of friends, lived in three continents and become fluent in two different languages. I just feel that it's important to let you know why I think I'm certified to answer your questions. I'm also a guy, so I know how men think. I'm not saying that there aren't a fair share of guys who have questions about girls. I just generally see more females asking about their love lives here than guys. Hope you like my advice, and good luck to everyone with their personal issues.
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Can crush on my best friend but don’t show it. I told her how I felt that took me years to tell her but I never flirt, tease, or lean on her. Of course, she doesn’t feel the same way but her body language to me, is flirting, teasing and leans on me. She shows body language but doesn’t say how she really feels. Some of our friends notices that and other people around us in public too; one friend said that we act like a odd couple because we push each others buttons, which freak us out that we deny it. She has this playful personality to me only around me. I ignore it which makes her do it even more. I am to shy to get close to her so I never show any interest to her but I can write it out….I just don’t get it?????
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You never actually ask how to get closer to her, but I'm assuming that's what you want to know. I know how to do it, but it's going to sound completely irrational. Look at it this way. She hangs out with you a lot, so she obviously thinks you're a good person. She flirts with you publicly, so she doesn't think you're unattractive, otherwise she wouldn't risk her friends thinking you were together. All you need is something to make her realize that she likes you. How do you do that? Get over her. Not really, but make it look that way. Start talking to other girls. Mention them to her. Nine times out of ten a girl will start to show signs of jealousy. Your problem is that you're too attainable. Once she starts feeling jealous, you have a chance to cross the boundary out of that dangerous friend zone. Trust me, this will work. I have had two really good female friends that ended up becoming girlfriends, they both flirted with me before, they both kept things on a strictly friendly level, and they both came out and openly told me they wanted to be with me the second I became unavailable. I have also had crushes on a few other female friends where I just kept the friendship going in hopes that one day it would escalate into something more. They all ended up dating friends of mine because they were always around me and hence always around all of my guy friends. Trust me. If you keep things going the way they are eventually she will take your companionship for granted and get with another guy. If she can keep the best friend and have a cool boyfriend, why would she do anything else? Show her you aren't so expendable.
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