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Whenever a guy calls me pretty, or hot, or even cute I feel really insecure about myself. It annoys me more than anything and I would just rather them notice that I'm funny, or that I'm nice or something. Almost like..I have nothing else thats attractive to you? Anyone else get what I'm talking about? I'm 16 and I've asked my friends and they say NO THAT'S A COMPLIMENT! HE THINKS YOU'RE CUTE!
I'd rather they just not say anything. I feel insecure being around guys that tell me I'm good looking because I feel like if I'm not looking so great at that moment, I have nothing to offer. Do all guys think that girls want to hear "You're hot" because quite frankly, I get distant from guys who say things like that to me.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Wow I know exactly how you feel. The thing is that I'm friends with mostly guys. And I feel the same way, whenever they don't happen to say something, I automatically assume I look bad and that I have nothing else to offer. But it's not true. I've had talks with my friends about this because it bothered me. What they said, and I believe it to be true, is that they wouldn't say it if they weren't attracted to a girl's personality as well. Beauty comes from personality, it really does. They wouldn't bother telling you you're good looking or hot or pretty if you were a nasty person, because they wouldn't want to waste their time. "You're hot" is just something they think to say, they don't mean to offend you. So just try to take it in stride and know that you have more than just looks. Even from what you just said in your question/explanation, you seem like a very admirable person.
(Rating: 5) Thanks! You made me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one thinking this way sometimes.