about

My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

imagine this fun happy spirited girl who runs around and doesn't give a flip =] she likes meeting people and can make conversation with people easily. but then when she finds out a guy likes her, its like she gets all nervous. she pretty much loses all of her spunk that probably attracted the guy in the first place. but she finds it hard to trust the guy in a way, and his intentions. either shes afraid or she just hasn't had enough experience with guys. but she wishes she could show him who she really is. because he told her friend that he liked this girl and they've been hanging out together once a week for the last few weeks. they even kissed once =]. but she needs help letting loose. she needs to get her groove back hahaha. i bet you all love how this question is all hypothetical. thanx =]]]

Wow, this girl sounds like this one girl I know... hypothetically speaking of course. ;)

Eventually, I convinced this girl to relax and be herself. I told her not to be afraid to speak her mind. As Dr. Seuss once said, "Always say what's on your mind. The one's that mind don't matter and the one's that matter don't mind."

So that girl I know was never able to date anyone because she just felt so nervous and uncomfortable around any guy that got close to her. But one day, this boy came along. He was hurt by one of her friends and she nursed his broken heart. Eventually, that girl grew to like that boy. She waited and waited for that nervous feeling to come, but it never did. Something was different about him. They are still together today. :)


Back to the girl you know...
Like you said, that guy probably likes the girl because of how awesome she is. And if she tries so hard but no matter what she cannot open up around that guy, then he is probably not the one for her. If she really wants it to work, she will find a way to make it happen in time. Before then, she should be friends with the guy and get to know him better. Once she knows the guy better, I am sure she can open up around him a lot more.

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(Rating: 5) wow thank you for the killer advice and the outrageously fantastic quote.
the hypothetical girl sends her thanks as well =]
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