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I've got a particular interest in sexual health and sexuality. I know a lot about fertility and pregnancy - and firsthand now, as I've just had twins. I'm also an accredited sexual health worker.
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okay so recently i kinda feel like Im a total lesbian and i mean believe me i have nothing wrong with LGBTs at ALL. But I think the main problem for me is like the future. I mean i guess i can give up on the fantasy of me marring an amazing guy and having kids.
I keep telling myself it doesnt matter and i have time to figure it out but id just like to know you know?
help?
Oh and if you are just gonna be rude about homosexuality please dont even respond (link)
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If you're a lesbian, you're a lesbian. The wonderful thing about sexuality is how fluid it can be. This means you could be lesbian, bisexual, or straight - and you're allowed to develop your ideas further the better you get to know yourself.
I think many lesbians have a fairly good idea they're gay from about puberty time, though some women don't realise it until their 20s, 30s, or beyond.
If you are gay, you lose the fantasy of the perfect guy. On the flip side, you GAIN the fantasy of finding the perfect girl!
You can still have children, get married (at least with a non-legal ceremony, depending on where you live), buy a house - in short, live a completely normal life.
I understand it can be hard; you'd like definite answers, but the only person who actually has those answers is you. Breathe, relax, and just decide to accept yourself for who you are. Time manages to sort out a lot of problems, and five years from now you'll probably have a much clearer understanding of yourself than you do now.
I wish you the best.
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Thank you so much that really helped. :)
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