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help!!!!!
i can't help it! but i am in lov with my prof! he is so smart and witty and he is very warm and kind hearted...... i know many think its wrong but my college doesn't prohibit teacher/student relationships if the student is over the minor age -which i am... WAYYYY past- and if he doesn't teach me (and i just finished my finals!! :D YAYYY)..........
i really really really really really really want to do this... i just don't know how to hint it out... and i know i have to be persistent because professors are more likely to brush off any passes they get for the sake of peace of mind and due to habit... soooo how do i make him feel i am worth it.... class is over now so there is no homework or anything i could take to his office... plus i did that just to make sure that i am in his radar.... i am honestly even considering doing my masters and finding a way to get him to be my supervisor if all else fails.... I DON'T want to wait till i graduate because i am just as good as that (i have one credit to go but am taking 4 extra courses for another degree -i have 3 majorsand a minor!.
i was thinking of writing a thank you email explaining how i liked the course and enjoyed it fully and how i knew i could do better (my parents had problems all through and i had to go to the hospital for some serious health concerns -he knows) and that i hope to see him in future classes....???
this sounds to cheesy i think... what should i do!
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Liking your professor isn't necessarily the same thing as liking a guy. Here's why: your professor is there to do a job. If he is professional, he'll have an okay attitude, teach you some stuff, etc. None of his students will know anything deeply personal about him, see him when he's in a terrible mood, or know that he is loving/possessive/ignoring in a relationship.
It's like having a crush on a famous film star, except it gives people more hope because they've got face-to-face contact.
Essentially, it's also about ages and stages. Professors at university level normally have a BA and an MA/PhD. Someone with this level of education is bound to be a bit older, and that might mean you guys have less in common. Assuming, of course, that you've got things in common in the first place!
If you are serious about wanting to pursue him, and the university definitely has a policy that it's okay for teachers to date students (which would astound me, really), then you'll need to approach this the way you would any possible date/relationship. Be an adult and ask him out.
I would think it would be highly unlikely a teacher would ever make the first move, particularly if he values his job. While dating students might be permissible, I'm willing to bet it's not encouraged.
I wouldn't take it too personally if nothing happens, as he probably has gotten pretty good at avoiding this sort of thing - particularly if all the women swoon over him. I don't mean to be a downer; I just think things are probably stacked against you.
Whatever happens, I wish you happiness!
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i know.... and thats what's killing me. just the fact that there may be no chance for me to even prove it could work... only thing i would argue about though is that given any other situation and he was any other guy then yes we do have things in common... i understand the boarder between professional and personal... but that is part of it too... i've seen him in both situation. except in the personal he's still clenching to his professionalism, just because as i said it's highly discouraged here... thanks anyway though!
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