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Q: The emails were saying of what I am trying to understand what she meant when she said to me in a chat room. Me and her were talking in a chat room last year. And I told her that I met a guy at a party and my sister was hooking me up with him. I thought it be a laugh of me sharing it to her but she turn around and said in the chat room “I don’t know if I should be happy or pissed” and she put “time will tell for the both of us”.
I told my fiend before that I liked her more than a friend. I told her that I went out with the guys in high school to get over her. She doesn’t like me in that way. So I slowly try to move on. Then she started all jealous like because I met some guy. All I wanted to do is tell her how I felt and move on I didn’t expect her to like me back (if she is liking me back?).
Anyways
The email she reply back I trying to see what it meant. I know I ask her “do you like me more than a friend” face to face and she ignore the question. I ask her again and she reply shaking her head no to me.
Right now I am just a little confused trying to not think to much into this. What is your thought about this??

Since it didn't say..I am assuming your a girl..please correct me if I'm wrong!

Sounds like she loves you, and needs you, but is a straight arrow. Keep in mind that most every study proves that all of us are at the very least "bi-curios" so that may be why you think she is sending you the wrong signals..additionally, from what I gather she truly does love you intimately (remember friends can be intimate!), but doesn't want anything sexual from you.

It could very well be that she has some passionate feelings for you but, as you know, society, even in this 21st century!, still has a stigma against those that are homosexual or bi-sexual *sigh* (we are working on it though- even as slowly as it is coming along!).

My advice to you is to remain close friends and don't push it, you don't want to mess up a great friendship! In the meantime, keep your closeness and be sure to tell her if your thinking about dating someone, etc. Because it is the intimacy that she wants from you, she is obviously a person that wants to be first in your life, and you will have to let her down easy if you find someone that you want to share your life with forever...she was obviously upset because you didn't let her know what was going on in your personal life...and it's also obvious that she needs you and feels that you are the one person that she can share confidences with.

Who knows what may come later, *shrug* maybe she'll discover (or uncloset) that she really is bi or gay! Does she go on dates with guys?

These things take time...and you may end up dating years from now. BUT in the meantime, she sounds like a very close and intimate friend and true friends don't come along very often (this I promise you-and remember I rarely promise), and I mean REAL friends, not "buddies" or "aquiantainces". Be happy with the relationship that you two have, be open and honest AND be happy for one another! Try to share your personal life with her as much as possible that way she doesn't feel left out, but as I said before, careful not to sound like your bragging.

Don't let this issue come between a great friendship that will likely last years and years! And who knows what else after that? That's one of the beauties of living...it is full of surprises (yep, some of them are bad surprises- but, fortunately, this one is not one of those *smile*).

Hugs and keep in touch!,
Jasmine

Rating: 5

very good advice thanxs

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I'm a 36 year old mom who has too much life experience. I realize that, no matter your age, life throws some crazy curve balls at you when you least expect it. I know in my heart that absolutely no one is perfect..and we all make wrong decisions at one time or another; and sometimes we just need someone to help us out without being judgmental! Furthermore, I think that the only stupid question is the one that you don't ask...knowledge is power.

One of my favorite sayings:
"If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones."

Well folks, we ALL live in glass houses at one time or another!

Never say never,
Jasmine