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Q: I should have been on my period 2 days ago, but the day before I was due to start I had protected sex with my boyfriend (with a condom- that was the only method of contraception we used, too) and it didnt rip. However about 2 hours after that he fingered me - we didn't clean up afer sex (unless you count tissues) due to family coming back home and nearly catching us doing stuff. So by that time everything would have dried off I'm presuming, so if he did have some on his finger could that have made me pregnant (when its dried is it still able to swim around if it gets close enough)? Is there any chance I could be? From a over paranoid but better to be safe than sorry person in need.

BTW, i've been on my period for years now and I'm regular. I wouldn't normally worry about a late period but considering I had sex beforehand I am slightly worrying..

Are there any other factors that can cause periods to stop apart from pregnancy (I've been itchy recently but after already posting a question about that, I believe its nothing to worry about).
Thanks :)

It seems no one wants to answer this one..it's a tuffy *wink*; but I don't want to leave you "swinging in the wind"..so here goes...

I cannot say for sure that you cannot be pregnant (as, fortunately, I wasn't there to witness what exactly went on *warm smile*). BUT, if I understand you correctly, then your chances are pretty slim. I cannot remember exactly from my human sexuality course that I took in college too long ago..but it seems that sperm cannot live for very long without some form of substance. ie. when it dries it usually goes "bye bye".

Let's see..what causes late periods other than the obvious:

stress (which you obviously are having), illness (this can range from the common cold to having a vitamin deficiency), being underweight, a new and vigorous exercise routine..it seems there are a few more but it's late and I cannot recall them all.

My best bet would be that your are likely late for another reason..but it's like 80/20 that your NOT pregnant (ie in your favor), because, as I said, I don't know exactly what happened and in what order, etc. It could very well be that he had direct vaginal to penis contact with you before he put the condom on..and, if that happened you CAN get pregnant that way. Or maybe he fingered you right after touching himself.. Remember, It only takes ONE itsy bitsy little spermy! Did he go from using his hand on/near his penis, then straight to you? If so, you've increased your chances of being pregnant.

While I'm on the subject, I think I should inform others reading this: Make no mistake,

YES! YOU CAN GET PREGNANT WHILE YOUR ON YOUR PERIOD!

Okay, If your menstrual cycle doesn't show up in a few days..I would take a pregnancy test just to be sure. Peace of mind is something ya just cannot put a price on *smile*.

Hope I've helped, I did my best!

Blessings!
Jasmine

Rating: 5

Thanks very much for being honest. Good thing is, none of the things you said would increase the chance happened! Phew!! I'll still be cautious but you've helped alot :) Thank you :)

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I'm a 36 year old mom who has too much life experience. I realize that, no matter your age, life throws some crazy curve balls at you when you least expect it. I know in my heart that absolutely no one is perfect..and we all make wrong decisions at one time or another; and sometimes we just need someone to help us out without being judgmental! Furthermore, I think that the only stupid question is the one that you don't ask...knowledge is power.

One of my favorite sayings:
"If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones."

Well folks, we ALL live in glass houses at one time or another!

Never say never,
Jasmine