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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Hi, I'm the girl who needed advice with the boyfriend and how we have to wait a year to date. Yeah. Well thing is..I'd hang out with him all the time and we'd still date if it weren't for my parents saying we aren't aloud to see each other.

I know its weird, they love him. but They want me to mature without being with him? So Any other advice there? I'm not even really supposed to be talking to him..Ya know? So What do i do? I don't want to risk having to wait even longer so I'm trying to abide by the rules. yet we still text..not too bad. I like the communication there.

Also, We've made a promise that no matter who we are with in a year when we can hang out we will have a night together just to see if the flame can be rekindled.

Idk just some more background info.
Any other more advice now that you know i'm not really supposed to be seeing/talking to him like we used to?

-Thanks,
"Waiting"

Ask your parents if it's ok to hang out with him if it's with a bunch of other people. As long as you ask them about it, I'm sure a reasonable compromise can be reached.

Maybe you could request one phone call a week? It's ridiculous to sever ALL contact for an entire year. Even if it's just a 15-20 minute chat to catch up, I really don't understand why your parents wouldn't want you to. Texting is good, like you said.

Perhaps your parents will allow him over for a "family dinner" like once a month or something. That way you can spend time together and your parents can be included.

The best thing to do, like I said, is talk it out with your parents and try to come up with some reasonable compromises.

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