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Q: i pull out my eyebrows, and eyelashes, but right now it's msotly my eyebrows. its supposedly a disease linked to OCD, but my mom claims i dont have it. ive been battling this for 5 years, it lowers my self esteem, and i'm pretty positive i have it. my eyebrows, they have like patches without hair, so i like color them in i guess with thick eyeliner pencil, so it doesn't look ridiculously fake, but still it's weird. please don't judge me for this, its something i REALLY want to overcome, but how? i want to gain confidence and live my life *with* eyelashes and eyebrows, and not having to worry.
What you have described is consistent with an impulse-control disorder called trichotillomania. People who struggle with this disorder usually complain of an increasing sense of tension before pulling their hair or when they are struggling to resist the temptation o pull their hair. Others report experiencing some level of pleasure or relief from pulling their hair. Now usually, it not always the hair on top the head that gets pulled, it can be hair found on other parts of the body; the eyebrows with some people who suffer from this disorder is not an unusual target.
My advice is you see a therapist, to find out if this is truly what you are going through or get it ruled out. Needless to say it might take a lot of convincing with your mother. I would suggest showing her this response.
Disorders like trichotillomania are usually symptoms of a bigger issue, a coping method of sorts, while not a healthy one. Seeing a therapist should allow you the opportunity to process stressors you might be struggling with which may not be at the fore front of your consciousness.
Good luck.

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Ugo is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona. He holds a Bachelors in Psychology and a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology. He is also the host of Road 2 Resolutions, a web site dedicated to addressing questions on mental health issues and conflict resolution issues.
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