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ok so first off i'm an 18 year old guy. i've been in a relationship with my dream girl for now 7 1/2 months. she's 17. she's the first girlfriend that i've ever had. before me she dated a guy for 7 months, they broke up about a year and a 1/2 ago, but that was pretty much it for her. we're both deeply in love with each other. before her i was depressed and miserable but she changed all that and since we've been together i'm happier than i ever could've imagined. i know that she's really happy with me too. so basically we can't get enough of each other. something that has really been getting to me lately is the issue of sex. in 7 1/2 months we haven't done anything sexual at all, no blowjobs, no handjobs or anything like that. i kind of thought that was a good thing for the first couple months because we were able to make something great together without sex or anything but lately it's been getting to me. i'm really sexually attracted to her and it's just driving me crazy. i know that she's strongly attracted to me too, she's said so and i'm exactly her type. we've both sent each other alot of nude pictures and there was no big deal about it. i feel completely comfortable sending them to her and she feels the same. we do touch each other alot, not sexually however. for example, sometimes we'll just lay on her bed for 4 hours snuggling up with each other really tight just talking about how much we love each other and stuff. we have this thing where we tickle each other alot. we tickle bare skin like the stomach, back, and she likes tickling my "man boobs". she also likes giving me wedgies. she's jokingly admitted that the whole wedgy thing is just an excuse to touch my ass. lately all that touching stuff has intensified. i get the feeling that i really need to do something. i know that alot of the time sex is bad for young couples but its been 7 1/2 months and we've made such a solid foundation already without it. i don't really want to go into like real sex until maybe prom night, which is in 2 months. i want our first time to be special and romantic. i do want to do some of the other stuff though. i want to go down on her so badly because i feel like she deserves it and i want to make her feel good. i don't even want a blowjob or anything else all that badly because i just want to make her feel good. she has told me that her ex went down on her while they were dating but she never had sex with him, she's still a virgin like me. it's embarassing to say but i know how to do all of the stuff because i looked it up online. there are alot of times when we have the opportunity to do stuff, both our parents work alot. i really don't know how to even get into that situation. people have said to just kind of "explore" while we're making out and go from there. i'm kind of an awkward kid and i'm somewhat unconfident and very scared of failure even though i've gotten all the info i need from websites and friends, both male and female. so if anyone could help me out i would much appreciate it. i know i probably sound weird but i'm just really confused about the whole thing. (link)
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Hey there, First of all I want to say AAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW! You sound like a really sweet guy and quiet frankly, there aren't enough guys like you around the place!!!
Secondly, It sounds like that you two have a very strong connection with each other and you really enjoy being with each other.
Obviously she's not going to reject you with sexual favours because she's already had a bit of experience previously, so thats good to know.
Thirdly, I say go for it. If you think the time is right and you two care deeply for each other, then it sounds like it's the perfect time to express your love in a more passionate way.
There is absolutely no right or wrong way to have sex, it's all about the persons personal preferences and the two of you will only learn from experience.
Don't make your relationship all about sex, I don't think your the type of guy that will but sometimes it just needs to be said.
It is however VERY important to make sure that the two of you are protected. I don't give a crap about these people who thinks sex is better without a condom, wrap it up!!!!
It's better for the two of you to be protected then to be sorry and have a sexually transmitted disease that you can die from.
Later on down the tract when things are a bit more serious and more committed, then unprotected sex might be something that you can discuss with each other.
If your worried about how your girl might react when you try to take things further, just let her be in control, give her the impression your ready to have sex and just let it happen, don't force it, it's not something that can be forced or planned. It'll happen when the time is right for the both of you.
Or you can talk to her about it, let her know that when she is ready, your ready to take the next step in your relationship. Be very supportive and understanding if she isn't ready because at some stage she will be, desicions like this can take time.
It's not just all about the sex, cuddles and kisses are just as important, it makes it much more special and much more relaxing and rememberable!!
I hope I helped :) Goodluck!!!
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thanks so much for the advice, i appreciate it
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