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Q: Ok well I'm tired of working alone in my English class. Everyone in that class knows each other but nobody talks to me, which lowers my self esteem greatly. Even though I have an 85% average, my mark could've went higher if I was better with my presentaton skills. It's a serios phobia of mine and i've fainted many times which is quite embarrassing and now I really am determined to have a partner when the teacher allows it for group assignments. I don't even care really if i have to do all the work, if they present it, it's totally fine with me.

There's a few different people I have in mind to ask if another project comes that allows two people to wokr together but I'm very socially challenged and don't know how to ask. I don't even know how to react to their reactions if they'll put me down or not. I was more realistic in telling my best friend this and she tells me that I'm making it sound like i want to ask a person out but it's only because i'm not used to it.

Please help me? It's really serious, I'm so fed up with it, i'm actually having urges to skip or not even present anymore. Is it jsut as easy as "can i be your partner?" or is it mroe difficult?

I'm not even sure because usually when she says it's a group assignment everyone turns around to other people and the group is mentally already formed. I don't really here anyone asking "Can i be your partner?" these days.

And what do I do if someone rejects me?

thank you so much
wow haha i used to be the EXACT same way. i was so shy and didnt really want to get rejected by people. you know one day someone told me something that ill never forget. they told me that someone in my class (in which i always kept to myself), someone had told her that theyd like to get to know me but im so quiet that theyre sort of intimidated to talk to me. i was rly surprised. honestly it IS as easy as saying "can i be your partner?". I know what you mean about the groups mentally forming. people do that all the time in my class too. you just have to be faster than them. when everyone is looking around just pick the person you want to work with, smile, make eye contact and say "do you want to work together?". Seriously the worst they can do is say sorry, i already have a partner. if they say that just say 'its ok' and ask someone else. its really not a big deal once you do it, youll see. if theres more people in a group its even easier, just smile and say "can i work with u guys?". just remember to be nice and ppl will not reject you. trust me. chances are they want to get to know you! just do it! -hope this helped-

thank you!

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