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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

so long story , i broke up with my boyfriend in april of last year. it was one of those addicting relationships wher we talked non-stop and planned our wedding and what we were going to name our kids. needless to say it was kinda unhealthy so i broke it off.

and then summer was good and he got a gf and i flirted with people and so maybe we cought ourselves staring at eachother every once and a while but it wasnt so bad.

and then all this year i dont know why, but i always knew where he was. its not like i sat and memorized his schedule but i knew where he was all the time. and so i wasnt always looking for him but i guess i always found him.

and now, hes calling me again and being all flirty and i dont know what to do.

im pretty sure hes not playing games because my friend is his best friend and she says hes pretty serous about this. which makes it even more complicated!

well last night he was all "remember how we were going to fly to the moon for our wedding, well do you think we could still do that?" and i was just like "uhhh..." and i guess he took that as a bad sign.but i really didnt see that coming.

and now he wants to talk about it, and i dont know what to say. i just want us both to move on. with our self esteems still intact.

i cant tell him i dont like him at all and that i never thought about him because its a lie.

and i cant get back together with him because its so suffocating.

what to do?

Why not just tell him what you told us?

The relationship was too serious and it suffocated you. It's nothing personal against him, things were just moving to fast. Tell him you don't want to fall back into that cycle again, so a relationship with him right now is just not an option.

Assure him there's no reason you can't remain friends, but he has to stop coming on to you like that. You mean him no harm, and he should realize that.

You need to be upfront and honest with him or else he's not going to leave you alone. He's a big boy. He'll understand and he'll get over it.

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(Rating: 5) haha thnx so much! ill tell him that now
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