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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

I know to many of you this may sound strange and perhaps disturbing. It did to me too when i first started college... but now -I'm almost done and starting my masters dissertations in summer- I'm beginning to ponder on the thought....

I am not the first one to actually be willing to go through with this. And though those who've done so far remain a fraction of a tiny percent compared to those who oppose it, there is considerably more than a hundred cases that I'v witness...

My university allows student/professor relationship granted that the student is not taking a course by that professor.

I'm kind of interested in one of my professors. He's a little bit older but he has the sexiest mind and the sweetest personality. I know he's not married... and I know he's straight. Obviously i know what his subject of interest is (and thank god it happens to be my area too)...

I wanted to try and establish grounds of interest between the two of us without becoming a nuisance-causing puppy with a crush...

thing is i am afraid after classes end I won't be seeing him much if at all. So I'd like to drop the hint before term is over and see what he thinks.

how do i go about without sounding foolish or absurd...any ideas?

Since you two have the same areas of interest, go buy a book about that interest. For an example, I'm going to say he's a philosophy professor since you didn't really specify. Go buy a book or two from your favorite philosopher. Read it and ask his opinion on it one day. Ask him if he'd like to share ideas on the book over a cup of coffee or lunch. It can be casual and no pressure for conversation since you'll be talking about the book.

During the discussion, you could probably flirt with him, but do it in very subtle ways. Brush his arm, look directly in his eyes while he talks, flash him that 100-watt smile.

If you feel the conversation is going well, ask him how he got interested in his area of study. Share your experience with him. It's quite likely that your intelligence on the subject will impress him.

At the end, tell him you had a great time and you hope you can do it again soon. If he's interested, maybe he'll ask you out next time. The more you get to know each other, the more you'll be able to tell if he's interested.

Good luck!

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(Rating: 3) great advice! though i'm a bit worried about how i should react if he refuses to go for a cup of coffee... i mean after all he is a professor :/ ahh
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