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I have feelings for this senior, at one time I thought he might like me too. (ie..We never talked and he threw a paperball at me..then he picked me for his group and sat right next to me, he had his arm touching me the whole time and everytime he said something to me he looked me in the eyes. And he would nudge me with his shoulder or his leg. And he was teasing me and laughing with me. Note there were two other girls in the group. One sitting on the other side of him and the other in front of him.) But anyways i thought he might have had feelings for me too and you can see why. But then he started to kinda drift off and he wasnt talking to me as much. (He had a girlfriend the whole time, but when this "drifting" began to happen i heard they had broke up) And he would occasionally talk to me. One day he was sitting in the corner alone staring at the floor and i said "what is wrong with you cj?" and he started to mumble under his breath, and i said "yeah i heard nothing you said" and he began to smile and said good you werent supposed to. And i said ok then and began to smile and laugh back. But then i heard that they never did break up. And everyone is telling me i should go for it and ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend. But I couldnt do that. I would hate to think how i would feel if that happened to me. I am not the kind to steal a guy from another girl, whether i like her or not, i just dont feel its right. But i really would like to get to know cj if you know what i mean. But he has college and basketball, and the girlfriend. My friend said that we should write a note between each other talking about how i feel about him and his girlfriend and what she thinks as well (my friend) then stick it in my binder and when he checks it for our class then he will see it and read it (because everyone loves to read notes). (mind you this note would be between me and my friend talking about me and how i have a thing for him). What should I do?? I know he is a senior and everyone says seniors want freshman for their body. But we grew up in a small community and it just isnt like that with most of us. If that is true it is the senior girls and freshman boys.

What should I do about all of this

PS his girlfriend is a cheerleader and im not, i know that most jocks like cheerleaders, but i have this feeling that there is something there between us...And the other day we was sitting at the computer at school and he was looking up car parts and he seemed really concentrated and i was bored and all i could think to say was "whatcha doing?" (he would reply something) and "im sorry but im really bored" (and he replyed its ok)

i think he might be confused but it seems like sometimes he shuts me out...its driving me nuts

Boys can be JUST as confusing as girls. (haha). From what you told me it sounds like he's really comfortable around you and might be interested, but you'd be better off becoming closer with him first, especially if he's a senior. Try and get him to open up to you by talking. Let him know that you're there if he needs someone to talk to.

The note thing sounds like a good idea. Its subtle and cute. But the downside is that you don't know exactly how he feels, so him reading it might make things awkward, thats why I suggest creating a closer bond first.

Smart choice on not wanting to go after him if he has a girlfriend. That might make him lose his respect for you if you did try and do that.

Good luck :D



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Def ask for his number, or his email. So you can stay in touch ;)
Be like, "hey, can I get your number?" haha.
:)

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(Rating: 5) Thank you!! But I have another problem!! you see we only have one more week in this class together...should i maybe ask for his number and say to text him once in a while??
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