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ok im really good friends with my ex boyfriend that i went out with for a while but i broke up with him, then got back together with him and broke up with him about a month later. well that was about 3 months ago. now were really good friends and we talk all the time, but he still likes me a lot because he told me and says he loves me and stuff and when he first told me again about a month ago, i started to have feelings for him again, so i said i loved him back, which i totally regret now because i realized that i just want to be really good friends, but he thinks that we're like going out or something i dont know. i made it clear that i dont want to go out.
so now he thinks that i love him again, which i dont. so my question is how do i kind of get out of this so called relationship that i got myself into without hurting his feelings? because i care about him so much, but i cant do this anymore.

thanks.

thats a tough situation but i think pretty much the only thing you can do is tell the guy how you really feel...its not fair to him to keep your true feelings from him...and its not fair to yourself because obviously its making you unhappy... you just need to have a serious conversation with him and tell him that you care about him so much, but only as a friend, you can tell him that you still love him, but only as a friend and nothing more than that... you just need to be honest with him! and yeah he's gonna be upset but that is not your fault... you cant help how you feel... but if he really cares about you then he'll respect that and he'll have to settle with having you as a friend if he still wants you to be a part of his life...getting your heart broken isnt easy, especially when youre the one breaking a heart... but its better to tell him NOW then later ya know... anyway good luck

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