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Q: First a few details, I'm a 21 year old female and will complete my master's in December (not planning to pursue a PhD). Basically I'm at the point where I'm job hunting, starting my first retirement plan, and figuring out what I want to do with the rest of my life. These plans ideally include marriage.
I have been in a relationship with "Joe" for most of the last three years. Although he is slightly older, I'm a little farther along than he is. He's still finishing a bachelor's, figuring out what he wants to do, etc. Recently "Joe" and I have had several discussions on the subject of marriage and our future. "Joe" claims to be interested in marrying me but frequently points out that he's still several years from being ready. I realize that marriage is not in the immediate future but am unwilling to go on much longer without an engagement.
I could really see myself marrying "Joe". I've had three previous offers including one proposal, so it's not just a marriage I want. If he really wants to marry me, there shouldn't be many sticking points. I'm okay with a long engagement, don't want to immediately move in together, and have no desire to have children. Although I'm not looking to get married right away, it's important for me to know whether or not this relationship has a future. "Joe" is aware of all of this feelings and knows I'm waiting for a decision. How long should I wait for him to propose?
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If you aren't looking to get married right now or in the near future, why cant you just trust him when he says he wants to marry you? You really don't need a ring to make it official. You know he is yours and he knows you are his.
But if this is the route you really want to go and he knows this, give him 3 to 6 months. He probably has a lot of stuff including his school and what he wants to do with his life on his mind and he might feel a little bit of pressure from you on the engagement issue. Back off with the engagement talk and see how often he brings it up and if he doesn't then you know that he is nowhere near ready.
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I'm just not a super trusting person. With all the major decisions I'm making, I need to know whether he wants to be a part of my life long-term. I was actually thinking 3-6 months myself. Thanks!
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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!
I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!
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iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Mississippi!! Occupation: Doin what i do! Age: 20 AIM: Yahoo: Member Since: December 30, 2006 Answers: 705 Last Update: June 16, 2009 Visitors: 28862
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