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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

14f I THINK THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DATE AS MANY PEOPLE AS THEY WANT.If you have a boyfriend you should talk to eachother about also being able to see other people like calling them your bf/gf also. I mean, why should you have to stick to that one bf/gf, that will get boring, give your love life some variety. The whole commitment thing is i think overrated. Or you can call it a commitment but have the same with other people too. I want as many peoples opinion on this. Maybe someone can change my mind. Thanks

You're only 14! That's exactly how you should be thinking!

It bugs me how so many other girls your age are so caught up in finding "the one" that their youth is wasting away!

I'm glad you think the way you do. Seeing lots of different people is good for you. It will actually help you grow as a person and see what kinds of qualities you want in the person you want to love.

I agree with Younggrandma. Sex IS a completely different story, though. As long as you are having healthy, safe relationships and not giving yourself away to ever guy you meet, there is nothing wrong with dating lots of different people.

Keep doing what you're doing. Don't be in a hurry. Because one day, you're going to meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and you're going to know exactly who you're going to be looking for. You're not going to find that at 14.

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(Rating: 5) ur right.. ppl shud start thinkin more like me.
thanks a bunch♥
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