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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

next year my sister is going to high school im just really afraid she wont be ok in it. shes very different from everyother girl she isnt a follower she will do what she thinks. but shes barley makin it in school and she is very umm, emo or goth. NOT sayin it in a bad way. on friday their was a big fight between one of my friends a huge football player and a emo kid. he was so bloody. catholic school. i hate that guy hes a faggot but my sister is JUST like him. but she would fight back. shes a very tough girl. she doesnt make new friends that easy. she hates school shes depressed. im afraid if shell never make friends or get beaten up or fail out. she hates our parents she talks to me. her best friends now, i hate every one of them. she picks the worst people. next year i will be a junior and shell be a freshman. im her big brother ill kill anybody trying to hurt her. im more afraid for her and her freshman year than me on my freshman year. what do i do?

I think it's really sweet that you care for your sister the way that you do.

Your sister is going to face high school just like every other teenager. She might face some bad things like those that you mentioned, but she sounds tough. I'm sure that she will be able to handle anything high school dishes out in the long run; especially with a brother like you.

All you need to do is let her know that you're there for her and let her do the rest. Give her space to meet people and make her own mistakes. She'll learn from them and life will go on. Don't smother her too much, but encourage her as much as you can. Offer to help her do homework and what not. Try any way possible that you know would motivate her to get good grades and make new friend.

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