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I am a married police/fire/medical dispatcher. I graduated from Pacific Lutheran University in 2002 with my BA in Psychology with a minor in Sociology and will be seeking my MA in Conflict Negotioation and Crisis resolution in the fall of 2008. I like being the person that people come to when they have concerns because I have a solid head on my shoulders and try to greet everyone fairly. That being said, if you're kidding yourself or being selfish I'll be the very first person to tell you that you need to get off your behind and go do something with your life because nobody is going to do it for you.

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Remember: communication is key. God Bless!

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I have been best friends with a guy named Dan for over five years. We get along so well, and we kind of flirt with eachother. Now, I've begun to realize that I like him, more than just a friend. It's the classic situation: I want to tell him how I feel but I'm so scared that it'll ruin the friendship (if he doesn't like me, that is). Right now we're really close, but we flirt, so it's not like that weird, brother and sister relationship. What should I do? I'm running out of time because a lot of girls like him and I don't think he'll be single for too long. Thanks

You need to first truly evaluate how you feel about Dan. It sounds like you already have and you've decided that you honestly think that a relationship with him could work (and really, that loud chewing noise he makes while eating carrots isn't that bothersome, right? ha ha).

I suggest that after you truly know how you feel you sit him down in a quiet place with none of your other friends around (and not while you're highly intoxicated) and tell him that you have romantic feelings toward him. Tell him that you understand if he does not and you will not let this get in the way of your friendship if he does not but that you owe it to him, as a friend, to be upfront with him about how you feel because on the off chance that he feels the same way you two should give it a shot. It won't ruin the friendship if you don't let it. Don't get embarassed if he doesn't feel the same way, it could be that he used to but to be your friend he had to block out those feelings so he has stopped thinking about you in a romantic way.

You owe it to yourself and to him to be honest about it and be adult too, no crying, or pouting, or anything juvenile. Honest, accepting, forgiving, and loving.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, that's a good idea.
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