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15(F)
I'll be 16 in a few weeks.(Feburary 7th)
My boy friend is 17 (a year and a half older)
First off I just want to thank all of you in advance for reading. I really appreatiate you taking the time! But please refrian from bias opinons. Please don't judge my choices or tell me I'm wrong. I'm just looking for honest advice (experiance recomended)
ok well let me start by saying my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. I am totally in love with him and this will sound stupid, but I really feel that he will be the man I marry. He's my best friend, but also one of hte only people I trust. (Here's where you won't judge me! =0])
We're not sexually active as of right now. We do alot of foreply but no sex.
The other night, we were in my basement and we just really started going at eachother. We were both totally turned on. So after a little foreplay, I asked him if he wanted to try to have sex. He always keeps a condom on him...just in case anything ever happens. He said "Yea, but only if you're sure you're ready. I am a virgin, so is he.
One of the reasons I'm in love with him is because the way he looks out for me. He always makes sure I'm comfortable with what we're doing, and that he's careful.
I said I wanted to, so he put the condom on. I was really scared/nervous since I'm no on birth control. He said that he wouldn't cum in me, but he would still use the condom. He also wants me to be on birth control.
The second after, my mom yelled down to tell me something and I felt a little releavied. I just was so scared about getting prenant, I forgot how much I wanted to share this moment with him. I kept asking him what he was thinknig but he seemed to maintain composure. Is his age at all a difference as to why he was so calm?
This has happened a few times in the past week where we have ALMOST had sex. About 3. This was the closest.
So the mood was gone and we stoped. I felt bad because I know we're both ready and he really loves me. A few days after I told him that i felt relieved, and he told me I probably wans't ready. He doesn't mind waiting. He said he'd wait forever.
Sorry for the lenght!
but here are my main questions!
Will he change after sex...will our realationship be any different?
Are there any ways I can approach the birth control situation with my mom?
Will I get pregnant if I'm on birth control, he uses a condom, and he pulls out?
PLEASE HELP!
Sorry for the length
Please don't judge!
Thanks in advance.
I will rate you!
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First off, sweetheart, DON'T BE SO PARANOID! :) Everything will be okay; you're NOT going to get pregnant if you are on BC, you use a condom, AND he pulls out lol...it's just nottttttt gonna happen.
Now about him changing after sex? I don't know because many guys are different. If you've been dating for 6 months or whatever and he's never disrespected you or pressured you ("Come on baby, I know we're ready. I love you") then he probably won't. As long as you feel comfortable with it, then go for it, but if you get really really nervous before you start, then I say you're not ready. YOu nmay be physically ready for it, but not mentally or emotionally. Trust you gut feeling. If you feel uneasy, then don't do it yet.
Now, about your mom and birth control... Tell her that you think it might be a good idea to be on it. Say something like, "Mom, I think I'm getting curious about some stuff and I just want to be as safe as possible so I think I should go on birth control." Or think of something yourself, I don't know how your mom is. If I said that to mine, she'd respect it and say, "Okay, Let's go." Maybe your mom would be offended by your desire to take BC, I don't know...so you say/do what you think is right. I'm just here for some pointers :)
I was 14 and my boyfriend was 17 when I was in this posistion...so I kinda do have experience :] Hope I helped! :]
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