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Ok I've hung out with my older brother's friends for awhile now (he is 25 and his friends range from 21 - 28 i think). Well, I've liked one of them for a couple years now, and they had a new years eve party last night. I ended up staying there, and me and this guy that I've liked slept on the couch together (nothing happened though, just cuddling). After we all left, he sent me a message on facebook and said he had a good time chillin with me and gave me his number. So I gave him mine, and we're texting now. He wants to take me to a movie sometime, and I'm really excited. But the problems are 1) he's 24 and 2) my brother doesn't really like him anymore (some girl issue they had like a year ago). I really want to see where things go with this guy, but my brother would kill me if he knew. He's already told me I shouldn't go out with him and all. Plus, my mom doens't think it's a good idea, cause it might mess up my relationship with my brother. I'm really stuck on this. I really like this guy, but at the same time, I don't want to ruin my relationship with my brother. :/ Help??

You and your brother should be old enough to talk this out. It's not like it was when you were 14 and trying to date a guy that was only going to use you. My fiance and I have a bigger age gap than that. [I am 19 and he is 24] You need to sit down with your brother and ask him what makes this guy dangerous for you to date. If he doesn't say anything better than "me an' him have issues" or profanity then its probably OK to go ahead and date this guy. And your mom is just being a mom. Unless you do something really stupid I doubt seriously that you and your brother will have any irreconcilable differences. You've probably pissed him off before, but he's still your brother, Right?

On the other hand. I know you love your brother. I am the youngest of five and I have 4 older brothers: 1 that is 28, 2(twins) that are 24 and a 22 year old. Trust me, I KNOW all about brothers. They never liked any of my boyfriends for the first 6 months we dated. So, try to understand his feelings and don't be demanding as it might be a sore spot.

Good Luck.

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