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Hi. Just so you know i am not used to getting advice about this subject. I normally am the one giving haha. But you see i can't really talk to my friends about this subject becasue I told them all I was going to move on to another guy. O.K. well there is this guy, his name is Ryan. Ryan has a girlfriend. I've always looked down upon people who cheat (becasue its happened to me :(.. ) Anyway I had never conversed with Ryan before the end of this summer. Partly because we didn't know eachother, only eyed eachother when crossing paths in the hallway. I am extreemly attracted to him. I think he is likewise. We both have a facebook and I know this sounds juvinile but the only person he ever writes back via wall comment, message, or picture comment is me. I will have a series of messages with him that will be 20 comments long, where everyone elses is only 3, where as he ends the conversation and keeps it going with me. i found this one movie and i thought he threw it in my car, well he didnt but thats beside the point. what he did say though was that we should watch it and call it a party (he origanly told me i should have a "party" and for people to watch the movie). after this i thought it seemed like he was flirting, and that made me nervous because he has a girlfriend (which is a younger classmen who looks up to me) so i then told him that i didn't know if she would mind but i didn't want do do anything that would upset her.. he said he didn't think it would and that it was no big deal. I haven't talked to him as much lately but he still runs into me (seems most of the time like is secretly planned out) and starts conversation. I don't know what i should do, I really want him, but I don't know if i should follow my gut or my mind which is telling me that I would probably shouldn't. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do?... i'm really sorry this is so long i tried really hard to keep it short and to the point (link)
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Ok, Well first of all, obviously you like him. It sounds like that he likes you too!
Secondly, you are allowed to be friends with him and watch movies while he has a girlfriend, if she doesn't mind. As you said, you've been cheated on before so don't make any moves while he is still with this other girl. You know what it feels like to be crushed into little pieces!
Third, he obviously knows that your into him. You've made it clear. BUT..Yes there's always a but.... You need to make him understand that you cannot start anything between each other until he figures out who he wants to be with.. you or his current girlfriend.
If he ends up choosing his girlfriend, then thats something that your going to have to deal with when the time comes. But if he chooses to be with you, he needs to have broken up with his g/f and make it clear to her that he does not want to be with her before a relationship can come out if this for the two of you.
If he cheats on his girlfriend with you.. and if you two end up together.. who's to say that he wont cheat on you either?!
This way you are making him be honest with you and his g/f and even himself! It also proves that he's not a cheater and can be loyal.
I hope I helped and I hope you get your guy! Good luck :)
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